YOU CAN'T PLEASE EVERYONE.
There’s no simple rule of thumb when it comes to splitting time between two sets of parents. It’s unrealistic to have a fifty-fifty split: Parents shouldn’t expect it, and couples shouldn’t try to accomplish it. As a couple, you need to decide what you want to do (say, dinner with his parents on Christmas Eve, brunch with hers on Christmas Day) and then go to the families and tell them what the plan is.

DEALING WITH CRAMPED QUARTERS.
Things can get pretty tight when you’re visiting out-of-town in-laws or when your parents come for the holidays—people are on top of each other and worlds collide. But keeping the peace can be easy if you communicate well. If you’re the ones hosting, tell guests what flies and what’s off limits. If you’re the guests, ask your hosts how you can make your stay more convenient for them.

ADDING A BABY TO THE MIX.
It’s appropriate for you to start establishing your own Christmas tradition at home once kids enter your life. You can tell your parents and in-laws that you won’t be travelling as much during the holidays. Part of the magic of Christmas when you have kids is watching them wake up on Christmas morning and come down to the tree from their own beds.