Q: My hubby likes to have porn star sex, but sometimes I just crave intimacy. How do I get him to slow down, be more romantic?
Classic case of thinking that porn = reality. Porn star sex, or the best imitation of it that most of us can muster, can be wild fun from time to time, but my guess is he just doesn’t realize you don’t love it as much as he does. Best advice? Be open with him about it. Then light the candles, put on the Barry White, slip into something silky and make him take it at whatever pace you like.

Q: Does success in bed come naturally to some?
Success in bed is really more about attitude than genetic predisposition. It’s less about being a natural and more about being confident, being sensitive to your partner and practice, practice, practice.

Q: My wife won’t fess up: Do women talk about sex when they’re together as much as guys do? If so, how is the content different? Is it any less racy?
I think that probably depends on the women. I would argue that women like to impress their friends just as much as men do, so if they want to brag about the multiple orgasms they had last night, they just might do so. And though generalizations are generally more harmful than helpful, I would say that women—on average—might be more willing than men to discuss sexual problems with their friends.

Q: What are some great sites where we can get more info on sexuality?
At sexuality.about.com, the brilliant (and Canadian!) Cory Silverberg writes fantastic and informative sexuality content on everything under the sun. If you’re looking for a bit of smut and the occasional thought-provoking post, then try fleshbot.com. For straight-up sexual health info, visit sexualityandu.ca, from the Society of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists of Canada. Violet Blue delivers the goods at tinynibbles.com: porn reviews, sex toys info, G spot tips and beyond.

Q: Our three-year-old daughter walked in on us having sex! Is she scarred for life? What should we do?
Not to worry—chances are she didn’t understand what she saw anyway. At three years old, she probably won’t spend a lot of time dwelling on it, but if she has any questions about what you were doing, respond as honestly as you can. The idea here is to not give the impression that you are ashamed of what you were doing—rather, that sexuality is a healthy, wonderful thing.

Email your sex-related questions to Hailey at advice@2magazine.com